Till the water is clear
When the inspiration struck me to write about the lessons my children have taught me, it was the middle of the night. I scrambled around for a piece of paper and at least a dozen ideas, one sentence each, came tumbling out. One of them was “how to take responsibility for my own experience,” and [...]
The Oak Tree
I’ve been thinking about being an Oak Tree. Because lately it seems like I’ve been some sort of squat, prickly bush. The move went so exceptionally well, though I fear that through the distraction and stress of buying a house, moving a house, and selling a house, I’ve slipped into reactive-land and am acting ever [...]
Connecting to Well-Being
We rushed around and arrived early. Mica wailed as I stopped the car, “I don’t want to go to this doctor! There is nothing to do here!!” He was right. Orlando was seeing a podiatrist for the second time, and his office was not a child’s paradise. Last time, I found myself flipping through Good [...]
Taking It In
It was Saturday night. I had been at a Hakomi workshop all day, learning about and experiencing nourishing communication. I had left the house at 8:45 in the morning and arrived home at 5:30… I love coming home on a day like that. Now it was bedtime, and we were all snuggled in. Rom and [...]
My Secret Was Out
We called it lovin’. We’d seek each other out at the cafeteria, gathering at a table, and we’d ask each other, “Did you get any lovin’ today?” Kate might have said, “I haven’t been yet,” and we would all gasp. Haven’t been?! To the post office. It was the first stop of the day for [...]
Tender
Yesterday, I felt tender. Well, first and foremost, I felt exhausted. The tenderness came later. And the tenderness has been a long time coming. Every once in a while, I can’t sleep, or sleep so lightly that it feels like not sleeping at all. And for some reason, Mica wakes up about twice as often [...]
The Good Place
The weekend before last Mica cried, on and off, for at least four hours. We were coming home from spending Fourth of July weekend at my parents’ house, which is a two-hour drive north of us. We had had a lovely time with my parents and my brother and his family (though we missed having [...]
Sibling Apology
Yesterday morning, I was downstairs putting clothes in the dryer when I heard Orlando yell out. “Aaaaaahhhh! Mama! Come here, I need you right now!” I yelled that I was coming and he said it again, “Mama, I need you right now!!” I ran up the stairs and into the living room, where I saw [...]
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