8 responses to “Who’s Your Mama?”

  1. Alexis Ahrens

    You said it beautifully, Stacy! It's so absolutely true. It IS all about us, because our inner creates our outer, and the only person who can truly affect our inner is us.

    Society, as a whole, doesn't get this yet, and that's why it's so important that we keep writing about it, supporting one another to remember it, and encourage one another to embrace it.

    Self-love has been a big theme for me lately,and it ties in so well with what you wrote. What finally worked to get me off the self-bludgeoning bandwagon was to realize that self-love didn't only benefit my own self. That's how we get stuck. If we think we're somehow undeserving of love to begin with, then what motivation do we have to start loving ourselves, and therefore take care of ourselves first? Not much.

    But … if we realize that loving ourselves affects not just us, but that it ripples out into world in ways we can't even calculate, then it becomes clear that we're being petty and selfish if we DON'T love and take care of ourselves first.


  2. mommymystic

    Thank you, I love this, especially partnership-thinking, which is also a big one for me to work through. As for your resistance to your mom's advice, I guess we all go through that, and have to find our own way. I was recently talking to a new mother of twins (as you know, I have twins also), and urging her to get some time for herself along these lines, and she looked at me like I was just nuts. So I backed off. She'll come around I know, and maybe we all need to go through that complete self-sacrifice stage and come out the other side. It does have its lessons, beautiful and harsh. Namaste-Lisa

  3. mark@babyparentingtips.com


    I was just randomly cruising around other parents blogs and found yours and I wrote the same thing a few days ago about taking care of yourself first. I think you put it better though.

  4. Rambling Rachel

    I think it's going to take a lot of thinking and contemplation for me to really digest and embrace this.

    And I know that not only do I need to read this but many other women around me.

  5. Green Mamma

    Your post reminds me so much of a book I am now reading on mindful mothering (for pregnant and new mothers). I too have to put so much effort and energy into transformation, and like you, I feel like my daughter triggered an awakening within me that was needing to happen (for a long time).

    Now I make a daily practice of being relaxed and mindful, though I slip . . . I always slip.

    Your post also seems to indicate that you've reached some resolution or a place of peace from where you were in the last weeks . . . learning to make time to nurture and care for yourself. I know I will need to remind myself of this too, especially as I go from mothering one to mothering 2 (i just don't know what to expect).

    Anyway, thank you again for sharing your journey; another great post.

  6. Asianmommy

    You're so right–we need to take care of ourselves, as well as others.

  7. All Adither

    I love this post. I missed it the first time around, so I'm glad you cross posted it here.

  8. jackie

    Man…so true. If you don't take care of yourself then you CAN'T take care of others!! I was about to explode last night, after a long day with my 2 yr old and 8 month old. I was frazzled, irritable and about to have a "less than stellar mama" moment. Thankfully my husband came home so I could go to yoga. On the way home my internal conversation sounded something like this: LIFE IS AMAZING! THE SKY IS BEAUTIFUL! I AM SO LUCKY! THANK GOODNESS FOR MY CHILDREN!

    What a difference a couple of hours, some sweat and a few downward dogs can make…

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